How to Get Your Groove Back When You’re in a Rut

Have you ever found yourself in a major funk? Today, I want to show you how to get your groove back when you’re in a rut.

Picture this scenario:

You’ve just returned from a great summer gig. You start to put yourself back into the audition scene hoping to get another contract quickly. At first you’re feeling highly motivated. You’re pounding the pavement hard hitting up 5-10 auditions a week, taking classes, and sending out your headshot to every agent in the city. After 2 weeks of this, you haven’t received one call back or gotten any bites from an agent. You’re pushing through your day job and keep telling yourself it will pass. A couple of weeks turns into a couple of months. You’ve got no shows on horizon and are questioning whether you belong in this business.

I found myself in this exact position after returning back to NYC after my first cruise line contract. I had just spent the last 10 months performing, travelling the world, and getting a steady paycheck doing what I love. I had been out of the audition scene for almost a year and was having a hard time getting back in to the swing of things. I was frustrated beyond belief to the point that I made the decision to quit the entertainment industry and applied to 20 corporate jobs in 1 day. I told all of my friends and family that I was home to stay and was actively looking for a 9-5 job. I met up with a friend for lunch to talk about job options at her office when all of a sudden my phone rang. It was Disney Cruise Lines asking me to come back for an emergency replacement contract immediately. Needless to say I dropped all my aspirations of being a corporate superstar and jumped on a plane to Barcelona. Performing was in my blood and I couldn’t give up on it.

I used this experience as a life lesson: when the going gets tough, you’ve got to find your groove. I’ve never forgotten that feeling of butterflies I had in my stomach the day I got that phone call. It was a reminder that no matter how much I was struggling I knew I had a purpose. So how are you to remember this when you’re stuck in a rut and feeling like eating Ben and Jerry’s morning till night? Here’s my guide to getting your groove back:

  1. Give yourself a day to acknowledge your feelings of disappointment, frustration, and doubt.Ignoring the problem won’t make it going away but if you give yourself permission to let your innermost feelings be heard you can begin to make headway on how to change the situation. The key here is to put a time limit on it to no more than 24 hours. I’ve found if you let the pity party go longer than that it tends to turn you into an even deeper funk. Take a day off from everything and spend a little extra time with yourself. I recommend journaling everything you’re feeling and just letting it all out. How does it feel for your emotions to be heard? Once you’ve completed this move on to step 2.
  1. Set up a date to talk with a trusted mentor. Sometimes you just need to get an outsider’s perspective. Call up your trusted dance instructor, acting coach , voice teacher, or veteran performer friend and tell them what your process has been. You may find that they have a new approach that you haven’t tried yet and can offer you valuable insight into the inner workings of the business. Don’t feel you have anyone you can call? Open up to your network of friends and see who they recommend you should meet.
  1. Take time once a week to do something over the top silly and fun.Laughter is truly the best medicine. In fact according to this article by the Mayo Clinic, “Laughter enhances your intake of oxygen-rich air, stimulates your heart, lungs and muscles, and increases the endorphins that are released by your brain.” How’s that for some free therapy? I truly believe that is we feel happy we are better equipped to focus on what our passion for life is. So get some laughter in and get the endorphins flowing!
  1. Take a moment to map out your vision.When we’re unsure of what we want, it’s hard to find our groove. Spend an afternoon with your journal getting really clear on what your vision is. If you need some inspiration check out this post I wrote about creating your vision.If you’re more of a visual person, get out the scissors, glue, poster board, and magazines and create a vision board for yourself. Once you’ve clarified your vision see if your current process aligns. Set up a gameplan that will give you step by step instructions to making that dream a reality.

At the end of the day, what I want you to remember most is that getting a callback does not define you as a person. If you focus on creating the best you you can, the jobs will follow. Trust your gut, stay true to yourself, and let your uniqueness shine. You’ve got an amazing gift to offer this world and no one can take that from you.

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Catherine Mancuso
Founder Aries In Flight
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